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If one of her 10-year-old charges wrote something wrong in their heading or didn't precisely follow her instructions, she roared and flailed and ripped up the project and threw it in the trash. Not always; just sometimes, but the erratic nature of it made it worse in the eyes of her students, not better. They never knew what they were going to get. Last year, my oldest daughter had a 5th grade teacher who changed a little piece of who she was. This teacher was a normal-enough educator, a person skilled in her trade but one who trusted too much in the power of public humiliation. Time was, I had control over the things my kids did and saw each day. But now that they are living and moving in a space outside my living room, I must watch as things that are beyond my control slowly shape and mold the person they are inside. My daughter has always been prone to perfectionism - for whatever reason. And because my husband and I know that road fairly well, we've tried to push her down another one. But the world is wide and the teachers are many, and there's only so much you can do. Plus, we tell ourselves, it's good for her to have a range of experiences, to grow and to learn from people of a variety of temperaments. Still, it's frustrating because, since she was two years old, we have extolled the virtues of not being afraid to make mistakes. We have spouted quotes by Ben Franklin and Thomas Edison and Michael Jordan. We have reminded her that you learn more from your failures than your successes. That v class="clear"> "Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in." Leonard Cohen |
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